But once an actual relationship gets established and things grow comfortable, you get bored and antsy. You enjoy the beginning butterflies, the excitement of the what’s gonna happen here? mentality, the coy flirting, etc. You get addicted to the ‘falling’ part of falling in love, but you’re not obsessively chasing a relationship because you always get restless a few months (or weeks) in. But you don’t feel like you need it to be happy. If a relationship came into the equation, you’d welcome it with open arms. You find so much joy in nights out with your friends, little (and big) successes in your career, upcoming trips you get to look forward to, cozy nights in. But you’re not actively seeking it because you’re already busy enjoying all the happy things you already have in your life. If love fell into your lap right now, you’d be thrilled. You’re not lonely or desperately craving a relationship because you’re really good at finding happiness no matter what your situation is. You’re not against love – you just don’t think it could fit into your life right now. Right now, you treasure the idea of being able to pick up your life and move anytime you want, or to be able to quit your job and travel for three months if you really wanted to. But you also love adventure, traveling, spontaneity, not having anyone to answer to, independence, and self-exploration. You don’t dislike love actually, you love love. You like your freedom too much right now to want a relationship. You feel safer focusing on your career and chasing after concrete goals than you do being in a relationship and giving your control over to something as unpredictable and impractical as love. It’s the getting-around-your-pessimistic-outlook-on-love that is the reason why you’re not actively looking for it. ![]() You’re stubbornly not-desperate for a relationship.Ĭommitment issues aren’t your problem. You’re also just naturally very independent, so you enjoy having your own space, making your own plans without consulting anyone else, and using this time in your life to grow intellectually. Mostly because the idea of emotional intimacy freaks you out so much that you’d like to procrastinate falling in love for as long as you possibly can. ![]()
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